Many people believe that their bad mood result from factors beyond their control . They ask,” How can I possibly feel happy ? My girlfriend rejected me . Women always put me down.”
Or they say, ”How can I feel good about myself? I am not paricularly successful.I don’t have a glamorous career. I’m just an inferior person, and that’s reality.”
Some people attribute their blue moods to their hormones or body chemistry. Others believe that their sour outlook results from some childhood event that has long been forbotten and buried deep in their unconscious . Some people argue that it is realistic to feel bad because they are ill or have recently experienced a personal disappointment. Others attribute their bad moods to the state of the world – the shaky economy , the bad weather, taxes, traffic jams, the threat of nuclear war. Misery, they argue is inevitable.
Of course, there is some thruth in all of these ideas. Our feelings undoubtedly are influenced by external events, by our body chemistry and by conflicts and traumas from the past. However, these theories are based on the notion that our feelings are beyond our control.
If you say,” I just can’t help the way I feel .” You will only make yourself a victim of your misery – and you will be fooling yourself because you can change the way you feel. If you want to feel better, you must realise that your thoughts and attitudes – not external events – creat yourfeelings.You can learn to change the way you think, feel and behave in the here-and-now. That simple but revolutionary principle can help you change your life.
To illustrate the important relationship between your thoughts and your moods , consider the many ways you might react to a compliment. Suppose I told you , ” I really like you. I think you area neat person.”
How would you feel ? some people would feel pleased and happy.Others might feel sad and guilty. Some people feel embarrassed and some would react with anger and annoyance.
What explains such different reactions?
It is because of the different ways they might think about the compliment . If you feel sad , you are probably thinking.” Dr.Burns is just saying that to make me feel good. He is just trying to be nice to me , but he he doesn’t really mean it.”
If you feel annoyed , you might be thinking, ” He is flattering me. He must be trying to get something from me. Why isn’t he more honest? ”
If you feel good about the compliment , you are likely to be thinking.
( I will complete it in the article 3 soon)
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