USEFUL TO KNOW HOW YOUR CONFLICT PHOBIA KEEPS YOU STUCK
The desore to get back at others can prevent you from opening up and getting closer to them. Many people have the opposite problem-they are afraid of anger and conflict. They think they should be nice all the time and never have any negative feelings. I call this a ” conflict phobia.” People with this attitude will go to great lengths to avoid talking openly about disagreements or hurt feelings.
Many of us were raised with the belief that negative emotions like anger are bad . This attitude can make it hard for you to express your feelings. You may be afraid to say,” I feel angry right now” or ” I feel lonely,” because you think you shouldn’t feel this way . This attitude may also make it hard for you to listen. If someone you respect is angry with you, you don’t want to hear it because you…
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Darkness is a terrible foe. Devoid of all light, it keeps us from seeing even a tiny speck of hope. Early in my many attempts to break free from the bondage of active addiction, my uncle said, Your problem is you can t see the horizon. Darkness, by its very nature, blinds us to our circumstance. Close your eyes for a moment and try to remember exactly where everything is in the room where you re sitting as you read this. Without peeking, make a mental picture of every inch you can recall. Angles, colors, position of furniture, which magazines lay on the cocktail table unread, books you forgot to put away last night, the location of your TV remote, where you placed your box of tissues. Then open your eyes and see how well you did. This exercise speaks of two things: it is impossible to see without light; and, we are often unaware of our surroundings or predicament.
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