It is also helpful to discriminate between thinking
that is useful problem.-solving versus unhelpful rumination that goes around and around without making progress . Spotting the difference can help you to step out of rumination earlier and avoid getting stuck. Moreover, comparing helpful versus unhelpful thinking about a personal difficulty can give you clues as to what you can do to address problems more constructively.
Perhaps when you are thinking more helpfully
, or being more considerate and encouraging to yourself, you might be asking yourself different questions( such as ‘ How’ questions) . It would then be a good idea to build those approaches into your thinking more often as part of an’ If….then’ plan. That is, you are learning from your own experience to make your thinking more effective. For example, Sadie could learn that asking ‘Why do I not get recognition at work?’ is not very helpful , and that it is more fruitful to ask ‘ What can I do to get recognition?’
There are three rules of thumb that can help you decide whether repeated thinking about something negative is helpful or not .
I will complete in article 2 soon.
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