To succeed in the life , we must have the best confidence . So , I found out to show some important information about this great topic. I
Jessica Pryce-Jones says in the book” HAPPINESS AT WORK”,
”If you’re like most people, you’ll experience confidence as something that has a hard centre surrounded by softer and flakier edges. The hard centre is made up of getting things done, the solid evidence which tells you” yes I can.” The softer , flakier , and more fragile edge is made up of self-belief and your understanding of your role. These three are the key elements of confidence in a happiness framework.
That harder centre is more difficult to dislodge but the flaky and fragile edge is much more vulnerable : it’s what you’ll notice most when your confidence takes a knock. All it takes is a gut – churning split second to turn from certainty to hesitation and action to inaction.
The most vivid experience I ever had of that was leading a strategy team event with a colleague in Switzerland ten years ago. We’d just finished most of the serious indoors stuff so it was time for a climb in the Alps. As someone dropped out at the last minute , the professional mountain guides we were working with offered me the place. Not wanting to be a wimp , I found myself in a harness and hard – hat standing around in an unprepossessing car park about to do a ”Via Ferrta ” or iron way. ”
That’s mountain climbing attached to ropes, cables and harnesses and involves a lot of clipping then unclipping of karabiners with one hand to attach them to bars embedded in the rock face. Although I’d watched the safety briefing the night before, I’d not actually practised using all the kit.
Stephan was climbing behind me. Just before we set off he mentions that he’s nervous and gets vertigo. Now I’m not great with heights but cope by always looking out , not down. We chat about it as we start to clamber across the rocks, distracting ourselves with talk about handholds and footholds as we climb steadily higher . Then he asks me if I have the time. I glance back as I tell him. Fatal mistake . My anxiety already heightened by his and our situations, spins out of control as I look down into the valley . I feel and taste a massive rush of heart -pumping adrenalin and cortisol.
I can’t breathe properly and, hyperventilating , I start to shake. Now I can’t reach for the next foothold: I’m bathed in sweat and pinioned to the rock face unable to move. Nor I can hear what the mountain guide is yelling at me , which is to let go, relax and rely on the harness. I’m only 10 feet from him but he can’t get my attention. Finally , I hear Stephan telling me to breathe in through my nose and out through my mouth. I calm down and he talks me out of the only full-blown panic attack I’ve ever had. Three minutes later we’ve reached the lip, which I hadn’t been able to see. My complete lack of perspective and total breakdown in Confidence meant I was unable to trust what I was being told.
That’s how flakier and more fragile part of confidence can grab you unexpectedly . And it’s particularly affected when don’t have the skill to cope , will to take action , or a good understanding of the environment you’re in.
Other things that affect it include your personality and your previous experience . For example, you might be a typically confident person , but could feel really apprehensive and uncertain just before presenting to 500 people for the first time, even though you’re comfortable talking to your team of 20. What matters, though, is not your level of Confidence per se: it’s how you cope with the physiological effects.
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